Lately, it’s been one embarrassing episode of unfaithfulness after the other. On Reality Tv-they even have a program called cheaters- the Jerry Springer show etc. Everywhere you turn to, it is like there is a shortage of good men. I mean high-quality, faithful men who would not dare think of anyone outside their partners. This does not mean that

there aren’t unfaithful women. We’ll discuss that soon. But today, its all about the men.

So, I set out on a fact-finding mission; determined to get to the root of the problem.

Before setting out, I’d had heard so many opinions. Some stated that it was genetic, some said it was to boost their ego, others said they simply could not help leering at other women even when they have got a gorgeous woman with them.

So it got me thinking and asking….

1.Were there no honourable men out there except Yours truly? Yes I dated just one person for the past eight years and did not have any extra affair. Hard to believe? Maybe. But its true. If you want to find out, get in touch.

2.Was there really a dearth of faithful husbands, boyfriends, fiance et.c?

3.Could it be possible that there was something more to it?

4.Or could our women be responsible for our acts of infidelity?

5. Have our values been so destroyed that we do not encourage the beautiful principles of faithfulness, loyalty, honesty?

I sampled opinions from both sexes and got varied responses.

1.Some women stated blatantly that men were just who they were. Men! Whatever that means.

2.Some said they did it just for the fun of it. Just to see if they’ve gone rusty at the “game”

3.Still, others said it was to protect their fragile male ego.”He had to prove to himself that he was attractive and appreciated by women. It was his way of judging himself and his own self worth”.

4. To make up for an emptiness. Maybe he wants a lot more sex, more dynamism. A little innovation and the woman is not coming up with any ideas, or he’s simply tired of telling her or initiating it. This same thing applies to women. It is just that women do theirs for emotional?- or is it?- reasons.

5.Loneliness. It is possible that his partner is not as available he wants her. Y’know she’s the high-powered corporate executive who simply has to dash in and out.She hardly spends time with him because of her job demands.

6. He’s just plain selfish and immature.Whether they’re immature, greedy or just haven’t got a clue, some men don’t value or respect their partners. Some could be so needy, all they want to do is take as much as they possible can from their women. And when she refuses maybe because she’s tired or has had a very hectic day either at home, school, work, anywhere, he gets annoyed and takes it out on her as a form of revenge.

7. Frustration. He’s been feeling low and depressed recently because his boss is just a plain a**hole who never appreciates anything regardless of how well he’s done the job. So he dates someone else to see if he’s really that bad and detestable.

8. She nags. O yes! There were so many comments on that. Ladies, please be careful how you treat your man. Never put him down harshly. Don’t criticize him negatively or without compassion in the front of strangers. Treat him nice. Medical doctors have found that men who have nagging women as their partners are more likely to stray and find succour in women who are nice to them. Women who give them attention

So, at least we now know why men do what they do. Is there a solution to this? Well, yes. Trust me. It all lies in making a commitment to your partner. How I was able to keep mine going was to make her the standard and yardstick for determining how beautiful other women are. As far as I was concerned, there was none as beautiful as her, none second to her. She was my everything. My air, my heart, the sun that brightened my day. It did not matter to me who other women were. As long as I had her, it was enough for me.

As Henry Ford said when he was asked what kept his marriage going, he said ” Be content.” There folks. That’s it.

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